| My mum. 23:05 - Jul 15 with 15010 views | Snipper |
I’ve been the principal carer for my mum along with my niece for the last few years.
I’ve been very lucky having a job where I can do late shifts practically all the time.
She was given 2 months back in late February as it was discovered that she has a sizeable hole in her heart. I’ve treated each and every day like a bonus day.
She’s been deteriorating slowly, but took a big decline on Monday night/Tuesday morning.
We’re now just playing the waiting game. She’s a tough old Irish woman who’s made of stern stuff.
I’m just sitting here now holding her hand while playing old Irish songs on Alexa on a low volume, as I know she can here it. She likes listening to Larry Cunningham and Johnny McEvoy especially.
I count myself as extremely lucky to have a mum like her. We take things for granted in life, but I’ve definitely been lucky to have been blessed with her.
Sorry for burdening you all with this post, but I’m feeling emotional tonight while sitting here. |  | | |  |
| My mum. on 18:54 - Nov 28 with 2046 views | Paddyhoops |
RIP. |  | | |
| My mum. on 15:23 - Dec 14 with 1695 views | Hayesender |
My dear old mum passed away Sunday. Gutted beyond belief, but relieved she's no longer in pain.
We really do need an adult conversation in this country regarding assisted dying, because her last few days were the hardest thing I've ever had to witness.
She was literally begging to die, and there was nothing I could do within the laws.
Not right imo |  |
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| My mum. on 15:38 - Dec 14 with 1665 views | stowmarketrange |
| My mum. on 15:23 - Dec 14 by Hayesender |
My dear old mum passed away Sunday. Gutted beyond belief, but relieved she's no longer in pain.
We really do need an adult conversation in this country regarding assisted dying, because her last few days were the hardest thing I've ever had to witness.
She was literally begging to die, and there was nothing I could do within the laws.
Not right imo |
Sorry for your loss mate.I agree about the assisted dying for people who are terminally Ill.I’ll always remember the pain and suffering that my parents had to go through in their final days.You would put any animal out of its misery rather than watch it suffer an agonising death.
We were lucky in a way that septicaemia killed my dad before the cancer did,but the doctors gave my mum the choice of treating that and letting the cancer get him,and she chose the quicker option and he was dead within 12 hours.
My mum told me that she didn’t want to be resuscitated if anything happened,so when the paramedic phoned me to say that she’d had a massive cardiac arrest,I had to tell him to just make her comfortable in her dying moments,as I think that’s the way she would’ve preferred to go.
Both of them withered away to virtually nothing in their final few weeks,so it was a relief for them both to be put out of their misery.
Take comfort that she is now pain free and in a better place.Best wishes to you and the rest of your family at this sad time. |  | | |
| My mum. on 15:41 - Dec 14 with 1646 views | Phildo |
| My mum. on 15:23 - Dec 14 by Hayesender |
My dear old mum passed away Sunday. Gutted beyond belief, but relieved she's no longer in pain.
We really do need an adult conversation in this country regarding assisted dying, because her last few days were the hardest thing I've ever had to witness.
She was literally begging to die, and there was nothing I could do within the laws.
Not right imo |
So sorry to hear that - RIP |  | | |
| My mum. on 15:45 - Dec 14 with 1638 views | Konk |
| My mum. on 15:23 - Dec 14 by Hayesender |
My dear old mum passed away Sunday. Gutted beyond belief, but relieved she's no longer in pain.
We really do need an adult conversation in this country regarding assisted dying, because her last few days were the hardest thing I've ever had to witness.
She was literally begging to die, and there was nothing I could do within the laws.
Not right imo |
You’re absolutely right. Glad that your Mum’s now at peace and I hope that your memories and your love for one another will be of some comfort as you come to terms with your loss. Go easy on yourself. Take care. |  |
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| My mum. on 15:47 - Dec 14 with 1627 views | loftboy |
| My mum. on 15:23 - Dec 14 by Hayesender |
My dear old mum passed away Sunday. Gutted beyond belief, but relieved she's no longer in pain.
We really do need an adult conversation in this country regarding assisted dying, because her last few days were the hardest thing I've ever had to witness.
She was literally begging to die, and there was nothing I could do within the laws.
Not right imo |
Sorry for you sad news, there’s never a right time but just before Christmas always makes it just that little bit harder. RIP your Mum |  |
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| My mum. on 15:56 - Dec 14 with 1599 views | derbyhoop |
| My mum. on 15:23 - Dec 14 by Hayesender |
My dear old mum passed away Sunday. Gutted beyond belief, but relieved she's no longer in pain.
We really do need an adult conversation in this country regarding assisted dying, because her last few days were the hardest thing I've ever had to witness.
She was literally begging to die, and there was nothing I could do within the laws.
Not right imo |
Sorry to hear that news.
Try to keep the memories of a life rather than the pain of the passing. |  |
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| My mum. on 16:53 - Dec 14 with 1530 views | danehoop |
I am so sorry to hear of your mum's passing. She sounds like a wonderful woman, take comfort in the warm and generous person she was and love that she gave.
RIP |  |
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| My mum. on 17:34 - Dec 14 with 1461 views | MoonshineSteve |
Sorry mate. |  |
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| My mum. on 18:18 - Dec 14 with 1421 views | RangersDave |
awwwwww mate, i'm so very sorry for your loss.
Dave |  |
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| My mum. on 18:35 - Dec 14 with 1399 views | johncharles |
So sorry to hear that Snipper. Great sadness but great happiness when you remember the good times
RIP |  |
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| My mum. on 19:21 - Dec 14 with 1346 views | essextaxiboy |
| My mum. on 15:23 - Dec 14 by Hayesender |
My dear old mum passed away Sunday. Gutted beyond belief, but relieved she's no longer in pain.
We really do need an adult conversation in this country regarding assisted dying, because her last few days were the hardest thing I've ever had to witness.
She was literally begging to die, and there was nothing I could do within the laws.
Not right imo |
Sorry to hear your sad news , I deliver prescriptions these days and some of the patients have no quality of life and are just waiting to go ....very sad RIP to your Mum |  | | |
| My mum. on 19:33 - Dec 14 with 1333 views | Harbour |
| My mum. on 15:23 - Dec 14 by Hayesender |
My dear old mum passed away Sunday. Gutted beyond belief, but relieved she's no longer in pain.
We really do need an adult conversation in this country regarding assisted dying, because her last few days were the hardest thing I've ever had to witness.
She was literally begging to die, and there was nothing I could do within the laws.
Not right imo |
Condolences to you and your family Hayes and friends your mum is in a better place may she RIP. take care of yourself losing your mum is a big deal so take care all best wishes to you at this sad time. | | | |
| My mum. on 20:07 - Dec 14 with 1307 views | Mick_S |
This is the first Christmas without my mum, Hayes. Last Christmas Day round here was the last really good meal my Mum had before she passed soon after. As many have said, stick with the happy memories and take it slowly. Good luck mate. |  |
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| My mum. on 20:15 - Dec 14 with 1301 views | BrianMcCarthy |
My love to you and yours, Hayes.
RIP. |  |
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| My mum. on 21:27 - Dec 14 with 1244 views | LythamR |
Sorry for your loss Hayes.
Something does have to change its wrong in this day and age that someone in constant pain with no chance of recovery has to suffer against their own wishes. its a hard thing to experience in a loved one. |  | | |
| My mum. on 23:33 - Dec 14 with 1172 views | nix |
So sorry to hear your news Hayes. I'm totally with you regarding the assisted dying.
RIP your mum and try and remember all the happy memories with her. It sounds like she was much loved and that's what all of us would wish as a legacy. |  | | |
| My mum. on 00:01 - Dec 15 with 1139 views | CLAREMAN1995 |
RIP .A great loss but a magnificent person it sounds like.I wish you strength in the days and weeks ahead.
Strongly agree about end of life care it should be all about helping the person move on to the Promised Land not about legal issues or whatever laws are in place . |  | | |
| My mum. on 19:39 - Dec 15 with 954 views | numptydumpty |
Sorry for everyone s losses.
It's always hard no matter how old or expected the bereavement is.
Am wanting some time away from the crematorium now.
Since 2020 lost both my parents, a very close friend who was only 44, and to some this might not be much but my partner had her cat sadly run over recently also.
And it's her second cat that met this fate at very young age.
It's almost like you start guessing who is next.
Thankfully Rangers have been the shining light at this time and that doesn't get said that often.
I not a religious type but when you experience multiple losses, you do start to question what's it all about. Am comforted that they all still here in some senses and looking out for us.
Life can be a challenge at times. No doubt... |  |
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| My mum. on 19:54 - Dec 15 with 936 views | BlackCrowe |
So sorry to hear Snipper. Having lost both my dad and my father in law within 4 days of each other in June, it's flipping hard. Christmas day lunch is going to feel a bit raw next week without them.
Best wishes to you and your loved ones. |  |
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