| My mum. 23:05 - Jul 15 with 15002 views | Snipper |
I’ve been the principal carer for my mum along with my niece for the last few years.
I’ve been very lucky having a job where I can do late shifts practically all the time.
She was given 2 months back in late February as it was discovered that she has a sizeable hole in her heart. I’ve treated each and every day like a bonus day.
She’s been deteriorating slowly, but took a big decline on Monday night/Tuesday morning.
We’re now just playing the waiting game. She’s a tough old Irish woman who’s made of stern stuff.
I’m just sitting here now holding her hand while playing old Irish songs on Alexa on a low volume, as I know she can here it. She likes listening to Larry Cunningham and Johnny McEvoy especially.
I count myself as extremely lucky to have a mum like her. We take things for granted in life, but I’ve definitely been lucky to have been blessed with her.
Sorry for burdening you all with this post, but I’m feeling emotional tonight while sitting here. |  | | |  |
| My mum. on 11:39 - Jul 17 with 1819 views | essextaxiboy |
| My mum. on 10:07 - Jul 17 by Snipper |
My mum died this morning. Her suffering is over.
Thank you so much for the kind words everybody. â¤ï¸â¤ï¸ |
Your caring job is not done , now you have to look after yourself . Your Mum would say the same . RIP Snippers Mum... |  | | |
| My mum. on 11:43 - Jul 17 with 1798 views | dmm |
Love and thoughts to you and yours, Snipper |  | | |
| My mum. on 11:43 - Jul 17 with 1798 views | nix |
| My mum. on 10:07 - Jul 17 by Snipper |
My mum died this morning. Her suffering is over.
Thank you so much for the kind words everybody. â¤ï¸â¤ï¸ |
Take care of yourself now Snipper and be proud you've looked after your mum so well. RIP. |  | | |
| My mum. on 11:48 - Jul 17 with 1785 views | Sharpy36 |
| My mum. on 11:39 - Jul 17 by essextaxiboy |
Your caring job is not done , now you have to look after yourself . Your Mum would say the same . RIP Snippers Mum... |
So true.
Hopefully you have a strong family unit that can care for each other and share all that will happen over the coming weeks, months and years. But more importantly look after yourself. |  |
| 'You didn't know that was wrong, but now you do. If you do it again, I'll know you are doing it on purpose.' |
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| My mum. on 13:06 - Jul 17 with 1740 views | MrSheen |
| My mum. on 10:07 - Jul 17 by Snipper |
My mum died this morning. Her suffering is over.
Thank you so much for the kind words everybody. â¤ï¸â¤ï¸ |
So sorry, all sorts of confusing feelings will come your way in the next few weeks, but you can proud of treating her as she deserved. |  | | |
| My mum. on 13:08 - Jul 17 with 1738 views | ed_83 |
| My mum. on 10:07 - Jul 17 by Snipper |
My mum died this morning. Her suffering is over.
Thank you so much for the kind words everybody. â¤ï¸â¤ï¸ |
Sending you and your family lots of love |  | | |
| My mum. on 13:34 - Jul 17 with 1724 views | terryb |
| My mum. on 10:07 - Jul 17 by Snipper |
My mum died this morning. Her suffering is over.
Thank you so much for the kind words everybody. â¤ï¸â¤ï¸ |
RIP Snipper.
My condolences to your mum, yourself, family & friends. | | | |
| My mum. on 13:38 - Jul 17 with 1721 views | terryb |
| My mum. on 10:49 - Jul 17 by 1MoreBrightonR |
Something I always find amazing is that in these moments, people come on here and share both their feelings and their time of sadness. That isn't me looking down on it in anyway, it's me thinking how amazing it is that this board is able to offer support for people and means that much as a community for people.
I can't think of many online places, where are basically strangers with a common interest, where that would be the case. I think it's fantastic to be honest.
Best wishes from me during your difficult times. |
It's not just for bereavement Brighton.
The support that those of us have received when we have mentioned our fight against depression etc, has been incredible.
We all have our differences with some posters, but when it really matters this board comes together magnificently! | | | |
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| My mum. on 13:41 - Jul 17 with 1714 views | distortR |
Sorry to read about your loss, Snipper | | | |
| My mum. on 13:44 - Jul 17 with 1704 views | stowmarketrange |
| My mum. on 13:38 - Jul 17 by terryb |
It's not just for bereavement Brighton.
The support that those of us have received when we have mentioned our fight against depression etc, has been incredible.
We all have our differences with some posters, but when it really matters this board comes together magnificently! |
RIP for your mum and condolences to you and all her family and friends.Take comfort in the fact you were there for her when she needed you most.
You’ll never get over the loss of a parent,but you will learn to deal with it and carry on with life.There is no time limit on grieving,so we all get through it in different ways.
Best wishes to you mate. |  | | |
| My mum. on 13:55 - Jul 17 with 1692 views | MrSheen |
| My mum. on 13:44 - Jul 17 by stowmarketrange |
RIP for your mum and condolences to you and all her family and friends.Take comfort in the fact you were there for her when she needed you most.
You’ll never get over the loss of a parent,but you will learn to deal with it and carry on with life.There is no time limit on grieving,so we all get through it in different ways.
Best wishes to you mate. |
On that last point, I would add that after losing both parents I went through periods of shame that I was beginning to feel the pain less with time, which is also unfair and something you have to accept is natural. | | | |
| My mum. on 14:16 - Jul 17 with 1675 views | stowmarketrange |
| My mum. on 13:55 - Jul 17 by MrSheen |
On that last point, I would add that after losing both parents I went through periods of shame that I was beginning to feel the pain less with time, which is also unfair and something you have to accept is natural. |
Very true mate.You start out thinking about them constantly,but after a few years you chastise yourself for forgetting their birthday or an anniversary,but life changes and moves on,hopefully for the better.
We will all become that person that others will mention once we’ve gone,but that is the story of life and death,so make the most of it and when people think of you in the future let it be for good reasons,rather than for a bad one. | | | |
| My mum. on 14:24 - Jul 17 with 1671 views | Harbour |
| My mum. on 10:07 - Jul 17 by Snipper |
My mum died this morning. Her suffering is over.
Thank you so much for the kind words everybody. â¤ï¸â¤ï¸ |
May your mum RIP many condolences to you and your family at this sad time
. Try and remember the good times you sound like a great son sending best wishes. | | | |
| My mum. on 15:01 - Jul 17 with 1625 views | CLAREMAN1995 |
| My mum. on 10:07 - Jul 17 by Snipper |
My mum died this morning. Her suffering is over.
Thank you so much for the kind words everybody. â¤ï¸â¤ï¸ |
Sad for you and your family Mark but relieved she is free and on her way to the Promised Land.Take care of yourself the next few days will be hard .Peace .RIP Sweet Soul |  | | |
| My mum. on 15:14 - Jul 17 with 1612 views | R_from_afar |
You are in my thoughts and prayers. It's a really tough situation, I went through a similar one recently. Try to remember the good times. Your mum will be finding your presence by her side a huge comfort. |  |
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| My mum. on 15:53 - Jul 17 with 1592 views | marky67 |
| My mum. on 10:07 - Jul 17 by Snipper |
My mum died this morning. Her suffering is over.
Thank you so much for the kind words everybody. â¤ï¸â¤ï¸ |
i`m so sorry snipper
may she rest in peace, | | | |
| My mum. on 15:59 - Jul 17 with 1590 views | 80s_Boy |
| My mum. on 10:07 - Jul 17 by Snipper |
My mum died this morning. Her suffering is over.
Thank you so much for the kind words everybody. â¤ï¸â¤ï¸ |
I'm very sorry for your loss.
There's nothing anyone can say that will make things better but you're in our thoughts. [Post edited 17 Jul 2021 16:01]
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| My mum. on 18:50 - Jul 17 with 1537 views | NordicR |
Vila i frid. |  | | |
| My mum. on 23:11 - Jul 17 with 1448 views | QPR_Jim |
| My mum. on 10:07 - Jul 17 by Snipper |
My mum died this morning. Her suffering is over.
Thank you so much for the kind words everybody. â¤ï¸â¤ï¸ |
Condolences Snipper.
Look after yourself. |  | | |
| My mum. on 23:48 - Jul 17 with 1426 views | PBLOCK |
Thoughts with you Snipper.
Take care | | | |
| My mum. on 23:59 - Jul 17 with 1407 views | BucksRanger |
Sorry to hear about your Mum, Snipper. My best wishes go out to you. |  | | |
| My mum. on 01:10 - Jul 18 with 1373 views | Konk |
| My mum. on 10:07 - Jul 17 by Snipper |
My mum died this morning. Her suffering is over.
Thank you so much for the kind words everybody. â¤ï¸â¤ï¸ |
You were there for your Mum. What a gift for a mother, and your Mum’s now at peace. Take care of yourself. Thinking good thoughts for you and all those who love your Mum. |  |
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| My mum. on 03:03 - Jul 18 with 1345 views | FredManRave |
| My mum. on 23:34 - Jul 16 by karl |
All the best to Hayes as well, difficult times.
I'm sure there are others not able, or willing, to put on here some bad news they're having to cope with but I'm sure, if you need to let someone know, there is always a ready shoulder to lean on. |
First and foremost, I'm so sorry for your loss Snipper and my thoughts are also with Hayes and others that have mentioned the difficulties that they have either gone or are going through.
And whilst it's undoubtedly an extremely difficult and emotional time for all those concerned, never lose sight of the fact that you were able to spend that time with your loved ones, not only through the most difficult times towards the end but also through so many good times over, hopefuly, many years. Those are the times that you are very lucky to have had and should be focusing on.
I chose Karl's post to reply to becuase it raises an interesting point, in my opinion. As he said very coherently, "I'm sure there are others not able, or willing to put on here some bad news they're having to cope with" because I believe that this is undoubtedly the case. And I'm not solely referencing the specific point about the loss of loved ones and the subsequent difficulties they face but the general "difficulties in life" that any of us can face.
You only have to look at the "Content with your place in the world" thread started by the one and only xtc to see that while it's a great thread with an almost 100% positive reaction to it there is no possible way that the replies are a fair representation of what everyone will be feeling who has read either that thread or this one. The stats prove that not everybody is content as the replies to the thread might suggest!
So, my point is that I hope that everybody who didn't feel able to contribute to either thread and communicate their genuine feelings, for whatever reason, is able to do so in other forums, or groups or chats or whatever recourse they feel comfortable with to lessen their burden.
Positive Mental Attitude and Sociallly Distanced Man Hugs to all of you. [Post edited 18 Jul 2021 3:07]
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| My mum. on 06:53 - Jul 18 with 1317 views | Rs_Holy |
RIP for your mum and deepest condolences to you Snipper… there’s not a day goes by when I don’t think of mum or dad. Remember the many great times you had with your mum! You will always have those precious memories. |  | | |
| My mum. on 08:49 - Jul 18 with 1285 views | bosh67 |
So sorry Snipper. You did everything you could for her, no doubt. You've been lucky to have each other and sending all sympathies and best wishes. |  |
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