| More to life 08:17 - Aug 14 with 31150 views | mart_Goblin |
Monday the 10th August was supposed to be a new adventure and an exciting new chapter in my family’s life. After a whole summer of huge stress looking for a new place to rent and having no joy due to legislation that came in on May 1st that was supposed to help renters , but actually crippled us and our individual financial situation, we had finally found somewhere to call home .
This was turned on its head whilst loading the 3rd van load of stuff from old flat to new, when my beautiful wife had a catastrophic stroke.
It’s hard to describe that feeling of helplessness and terror that you feel when this happens to a loved one and hard to comprehend the terror they must be feeling .
It was a major bleed on the brain. But when we went in on Tuesday to see her in the acute stroke unit. She greeted us with a smile and asked “I’ve been waiting for you, where have you been?”
She had no movement in her left arm and her speech was mumbled and quiet but you could just about understand her.
I left on Tuesday feeling happier and upbeat that she will be ok.
When we arrived Wednesday she was completely different.
She barely acknowledged us . She couldn’t open her eyes .
She remained asleep .
Yesterday morning I was called to the hospital urgently.
She’d had another stroke, this time a blood clot .
She was rushed to Charing Cross to have life saving surgery .
We got to see her briefly late last night as she was placed in an induced coma.
Next week will be her 49th birthday .
This post isn’t about sympathy. It’s mainly about 3 things.
Firstly , myself, my step daughter and my wife’s mother have a large support unit of wonderful family and friends . But somehow writing things down to me is therapeutic and lets me get some of this out of me in a way that I can’t explain . I don’t really do social media . Odd Instagram post but I’ve given up on it really. So this board and network feels like a sort of home to me .
Which leads me to point 2.
Life is more important than bickering about Nourry, Sir Les, Mbengue, Paul Smyth or whoever .
It just doesn’t matter on the grand scale of things . We all share different views so don’t get to irate and angry with each other .
On the flip side , this club really really important to some people . Rangers are a lifeblood to many .
So , if this IS your passion then we should all try to understand that too . This is a great board full of insight and different people, spearheaded by one of the best football writers in the land .
Apparently it’s taken some pot shots from other people recently.
Defend this board . It’s played an important role in all our lives to some degree .
And lastly , I need to learn and start gathering info on how on Earth I come to terms with what’s happened and the future , whatever that is , that lies ahead for us as a family .
The process of trying to help the paralysis on her left side is now secondary. It’s now about keeping her alive . Some of you must have gone through similar or know people who have, so any advice or knowledge that can be passed over will be a lot of help to me . I’ll be given leaflets and phone numbers , I know . But hearing real accounts , however good or bad will help just as much to how I go forward . DM me if you’d rather .
I will check later to see if there have been any advice given in reply to this but I’m not really thinking about Rangers right now.
Late last night as I trudged sorrowfully around Sainsburys, buying stuff just for myself which in itself broke my heart , a guy stopped me (I had a QPR top on of sorts) and he wanted to talk about last Saturday. I politely explained that I was busy preparing to move home so didn’t go and briefly told him what happened since .
This guy stood and chatted to me about his own health issues , how he knows what I’m going through and offering a hand of friendship he offered to be there if I needed him.
Never met him before . But our link was this wonderful club .
That’s the bond . So have opinions and have them with passion , but never forgot that we are in this together. QPR fans .
So thanks Eddie. You gave me hope when I felt like I had none .
Mart
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| More to life on 19:31 - Aug 27 with 4354 views | CateLeBonR |
| More to life on 17:38 - Aug 27 by Northernr |
Ted Hendrix. The guy who literally named the site we all post on.
Thinking of you and Mart tonight.
We have our moments but we’re a wonderful community of people following a beautiful football club. |
I was looking forward to this let's make lfw fun again thing!
Love to everyone and see some of you in er Blackburn! |  | | |
| More to life on 19:40 - Aug 27 with 4264 views | Monkey_Roots |
Hits hard to read Mart's, Ned's and Ted's messages.
My thoughts are with you, other than that I'm utterly speechless.
Bless you all. |  | | |
| More to life on 20:23 - Aug 27 with 4154 views | Paddyhoops |
Lots of love Ted . ❤️😞 |  | | |
| More to life on 21:09 - Aug 27 with 4061 views | qpr_1968 |
the last time i shead a tear on here was when 2 thomas 2 bowles was ill, a few years ago.
a great poster....
i've just read the whole of this thread....jesus, my thoughts are with you all....
mart ted and ned....all good posters.
love to you all.... | |
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| More to life on 09:18 - Aug 28 with 3640 views | 1BobbyHazell |
So sorry to hear that Ted. Love to you and all your family x. |  | | |
| More to life on 16:14 - Aug 28 with 3403 views | aston_hoop |
I don't get to post on here much at the moment as life really does get in the way of football sometimes, but just wanted to drop in and pass on my thoughts to Mart. It sounds like a nightmare you're going through and I can only pass on my love and support for yourself and the whole family.
As one of the probable younger posters on here (and I'm pushing 40!), I always looked up to anything written by Ted on here. I love learning about the history of this club, the old days, the mavericks. While I never knowingly met you, I feel like I have learned a lifetime of knowledge. Much love to you Ted |  |
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| More to life on 22:06 - Aug 28 with 3221 views | ted_hendrix |
Thanks to you wonderful kind People and thanks for your PM's you People are just that bit special.
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| More to life on 15:58 - Aug 29 with 2779 views | OxfordR |
Mart, Ted, Ned - I don’t know you except from here but we’re all part of the same QPR family. All of my thoughts and prayers and those of my family are with you guys and your families.
I don’t have the words but I do absolutely agree with Ned, there is support and help there from some fantastic people, just got to ask for it. |  | | |
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| More to life on 16:41 - Aug 29 with 2731 views | themodfather |
all the best to your wife, you and family etc a huge blow, i lost my wife to cancer 18 months ago . do whatever you need that helps . and i hope she gets all the support and help she needs. | | | |
| More to life on 04:34 - Aug 30 with 2465 views | BklynRanger |
| More to life on 18:43 - Aug 27 by Northernr |
Yeh we had a thread on the old Rivals board for a new name and I believe Loft for Words was Ted. |
Completely correct.
I'm devastated to hear things have got worse for you Ted. Keep resting as best you can big man and use this community in any way that helps.
Sorry to hear about your troubles too Ned, and I hope things have improved for Mart's wife.
Hard to know what to say to you all other than thoughts and prayers are with you. |  | | |
| More to life on 07:58 - Aug 30 with 2316 views | NorthantsHoop |
Your situation and words put a lot into the perspective of what is really important in life and that we sometimes forget that our families, loved ones and friends matter the most. All the best to you and your family. |  | | |
| More to life on 09:14 - Aug 30 with 2234 views | TGRRRSSS |
Only just seen this.
Not seen anyone from LFW in years.
I met Ted in 2008 Cup game against You know who...
And many from the time including westberks and his Dad...and GanjR .
Also the much dissapeared Pablo Hoopster.
Really sad to hear this news .
All the beet to anyone undergoing any difficulty and tough times.
Take care all.
Ted I remember you well.
Likewise all the best to you too Mart. [Post edited 30 Aug 9:23]
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| More to life on 15:37 - Aug 30 with 2004 views | BristolR |
I don’t normally post (at all) on these posts…but
Having lurked for best part of 20 years, I recognise Ted as one of the people I look for as he always posts as we would want…real, true supporter who has done the ‘hard yards’. Ted, your legend will live strong, would have loved to have bought you a pint and listened to your stories. Stay strong, as you represent a glorious time in out history
Mart, hope things have stabilised and your wife has a good plan for rehab.
Ned, always interested in your ability to see other ideas and angles, hope you are coping OK, hopefully better than that
Love to all of you…and anyone else in the Rangers family who’re going through tough times
We are special
We are QPR |  | | |
| More to life on 20:49 - Aug 30 with 1815 views | OxfordR |
| More to life on 15:37 - Aug 30 by BristolR |
I don’t normally post (at all) on these posts…but
Having lurked for best part of 20 years, I recognise Ted as one of the people I look for as he always posts as we would want…real, true supporter who has done the ‘hard yards’. Ted, your legend will live strong, would have loved to have bought you a pint and listened to your stories. Stay strong, as you represent a glorious time in out history
Mart, hope things have stabilised and your wife has a good plan for rehab.
Ned, always interested in your ability to see other ideas and angles, hope you are coping OK, hopefully better than that
Love to all of you…and anyone else in the Rangers family who’re going through tough times
We are special
We are QPR |
Well said BristolR, said what I couldn’t work out how to say perfectly. | | | |
| More to life on 21:01 - Aug 30 with 1764 views | dannyblue |
And here was me getting wound up by having my car stolen. Late to this thread, but very moving, and good reminder of what's really important. Sincerely wishing the best to anyone in this community going through tough times. |  | | |
| More to life on 09:24 - Aug 31 with 1437 views | Metallica_Hoop |
Very sorry to hear that Ted.
Even though I'm not a massive blues fan I've sometimes enjoyed after a few some of those old blues numbers you post and your no-nonsense football posts.
Wishing you the best. |  |
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| More to life on 13:13 - Aug 31 with 1224 views | FDC |
Another one here who hasn't visited the site much recently and only just caught up on this thread.
I'm feeling mighty inadequate here - just can't find the appropriate words. I guess the thread title sums it up perfectly really.
Mart, Ted, Ned, and anyone else dealing with one of life's blows - I hope you all know how loved and how important you are x |  | | |
| More to life on 15:14 - Aug 31 with 1075 views | 08olesen |
Can only echo the sentiments that have been shared here.
I’ve never met you, Ted or Mart, or anyone else on here for that matter. I moved to Singapore for work a few years ago, so getting back to games is a rarity.
But this site, and the familiar profiles within it, keeps those of us who live far away connected to the club.
Wishing you both all my very best wishes at what can only be a horrific time.
This club is special! |  |
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| More to life on 19:56 - Aug 31 with 854 views | Superhoops2808 |
Only just picked up on this thread about Ted & Ned
Thoughts with both of you guys
Ted, I have always loved your outspoken and no s**t approach to all things - One of the most respected members on this forum I feel.
And Ned, I know for many you are marmite, but you often have the 'glass half full' view that I do and cannot lie I agree with many of your posts.
Stay strong guys, and I dont know you in person although I think I may have met Ted once at LR but that was when you were a young man - As I said to Mart, there are better people placed for support than me but keep us updated as to how you are both getting on |  | | |
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